Contributed by Melba Murphy

The cardinal principle of etiquette is thoughtfulness, and the guiding rule of thoughtfulness is the Golden Rule. If you always do unto others as you would have others do unto you, you will never offend , bore or intrude , and your actions will be courteous and indeed thoughtful. Practicing etiquette and social courtesy is a good habit and a part of one's education that will benefit you socially and in whatever profession you seek.

You never get a second chance to make a good first impression.

In our play, we reveal what kind of character we have.

1. Think of those around you. People of character know the difference between what they have the right to do and what is right to do.

2. Show courtesy to those making your trip possible: your family, your advisor, your trip coordinator, your driver, your hosts. Pause and take the time to recognize, appreciate, and verbalize the fact that if it were not for them, you wouldn't be having this opportunity.

Express your thanks verbally (this is a must) and later in a note of appreciation (when appropriate).

3. Defer to the group. Immature children and selfish brutes think only of themselves. If the rest of the group wants to eat hamburgers and you want chicken, yield. The key word is TEAM and there is no "I" in the word team.

4. Be cheerful . Any group experience will mean a degree of stress and inconvenience at times. That is the nature of the beast.

Don't compound problems by whining,griping,complaining and pouting when you don't get your way.

5. Wait your turn. Never push or break ahead of others in line.

6. Have consideration for those who serve you. Only the lowest type of boor is rude to or inconsiderate of the people who serve him or her in restaurants, stores, or any public places. Always tip 15% in restaurants (when in a group, check to see if the tip was already figured in). If in large groups, try not to ask for separate checks....figure out the expenses among yourselves.

7. Audience courtesy:

Arrive on time or early.
Do not talk while others are talking on stage.
Sit up straight. Your body language communicates.
Do not sleep, read, or listen to Walkmans.
Don't leave an auditorium before a session is over.
Propping your head on your hand is a sign of boredom.
Hats should always be removed indoors.

8. If you must listen to music while traveling, carry a Walkman. It is almost impossible on a bus to find a station and a volume which is acceptable to a majority.

9. Respect your environment. Don't litter....leave a place cleaner than when you found it. This especially applies to eating establishments and restrooms. Graffiti, pilfering, and vandalism are unconscionable .

10. Respect others: Any courtesous person holds a door open for the person following him/her unless that person is some distance behind. On public transportation, young people
should offer their seats to older people, to handicapped people or anyone obviously having difficulty standing.

11. When it's time for sleep, have respect for others. If you must talk, do so quietly. Some people may be too timid to tell you that you are being a disturbance.

12. The last thing you should do when a trip is over is to thank your chaperone. They have given up time from their personal lives to make your trip possible.

Being a child is thinking that the world revolves around you. Being a mannered and respectful adult means being conscious of others and courteous to them.


* An inexplicable urge seems to come over many otherwise decent, honest citizens when they are guests in hotels. This is the urge to pilfer ---- to help themselves to articles that can be hidden away in luggage. Taking what is not yours is stealing. Period.

* Tipping:
Doormen $1 to $2 who takes your luggage and turns them to the bellman.
Bellmen: $2 to $3 to the one who carries or delivers your luggage to your room. More for extra services.
Skycaps: $1 per bag for unloading your luggage and tagging it.
Taxis: 20% of fare.

1. Any courteous person holds a door open for the person following him or her unless that person is some distance behind. It is extremely rude to let a door slam shut in someone's face.

2. On public transportation, young people should offer to their seats to older people, both men and women and to anyone who is handicapped or obviously having difficulty standing.

3. Hats should always be removed indoors. Just because others are doing it does not make it right.

4. Don't litter. Leave a place cleaner than you found it. This especially applies in eating establishments and restrooms.